Why Self Love isn’t Selfish

A question I am often asked is ‘Isn’t Self Love Selfish?’ And I get it; when you are used to putting yourself last, self love can feel selfish. It’s the opposite of what you have been taught. It feels uncomfortable to take up space because you’ve learnt that your needs don’t matter or aren’t a priority. You are used to pandering to a dominant personality who was likely unpredictable and inconsistent with giving love and affection and learning to assert yourself brings up feelings of deep discomfort, ultimately stemming from a subconscious belief that you are not worthy.